BooG Speaks...

What's up world... It is Wednesday, October 27th & i have so much on my mind. Not really sure where to start... I did my live chat Monday night & one of the topics was about labels/titles. My personal opinion is that labels aren't needed for someone to know who you are or who/what you represent. They will see it based on your actions. I believe that when you allow others to place a label on you, you've (a) given them control over you & (b) you have limited yourself. Now titles on the other hand are just something that's used for description purposes. Basically telling what it is you do. Adding additional labels to the titles is so unnecessary in my opinion...

The example is used was (a) gospel DJ, (b) gospel rapper & (c) christian rapper. Also, I've heard businesses classified as Christian Law Firms, Christian Bookstores, Christian Medical Practices & so on... So i really wanted feedback from others to see how they view this topic. I'd love if you would post comments....

Moving on from that... My other topic was about relationships. What constitutes a good relationship? What are the keys to having a successful relationship? What are the most important things in a relationship? One of the most important things I've learned is that you shouldn't seek to be in a relationship if you're no ready. Be man or woman enough to be real about where you are in life. If you're not healed of a past relationship, don't enter into a new one. If you're still hurting, all you're going to do is eventually hurt the other person. Confront your past, forgive yourself & those who hurt you.

I just recently got closure from my last relationship. It was a long & hard process. Because i didn't deal with my past & i ended up hurting someone very special. I could never bring myself to tell her i wasn't ready because i was afraid to lose her, but in the end i lost her anyway. And in hindsight after realizing how much she loved & cared for me, she most likely would have waited 4 me to get myself together even if it meant just being a friend exclusively. And what's crazy is that even though i considered her my friend i never wanted to be in the "friend" box... Sounds kinda stupid when i think about it now. I had convinced myself that she would leave me, forget about me & get with someone else. It was very selfish of me. I realize it was my FEAR of REJECTION that caused me to act this way.

I had to get closure because i had let guilt & shame overcome me to the point that i couldn't allow myself to believe she could love me or that i deserved to be loved & i hadn't forgiven myself 4 the things i did to hurt her. It even got to the point of desperation... Basically pleading 4 another chance to show her i loved her & prove i was who i said i was. It's the typical response 4 anyone who has done wrong... And so i had to ask myself if i was doing this because i felt bad about what i did or because i really loved this woman. Was i doing this for me or for her? Was i changing for me or for her? So after a lot of soul searching, meditation & prayer i realized that what i felt for her was real, that the changes being made were for me & that i had finally forgiven myself.

I must admit that deep down i want to be with her again but I've also realized that there's a possibility we may not. Until the evidence of either conclusion is reality, I'm going to be the man I'm supposed to be. I'm still going to support her in her endeavors & i believe she'll support mines. I'm content with that. Being friends works out good either way... Action speaks. And i plan on doing a lot of talking... :)  Thanks for listening...

BooG

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